Oxytocin

 Stephen turns one month today! After the six month mark, everything became more enjoyable and manageable. Every day, I love lazing around with him after both of us wake up and seeing him so smiley and happy.

Over the past two days, I've heard of two friends being upset over marital issues. The first friend did not share much but I know that she has had issues in the past.. sometimes calling to talk or at least texting. But this time, she did not share much and simply asked for prayer. This was rather worrying.. not knowing what was happening or my friend's circumstance.

The next day, a colleague comes into the office and I overhear her talking to another colleague. Over the months of getting to know her, I did have a feeling that her relationship with her husband was not ideal based on what she told me. It was not bad but it was not great either. She was in tears and complained to her friend. I, sitting behind her, felt bad.. and did not dare to budge into the conversation. 

Yet, my heart aches for my friends for the tough time they are going through. I've had my fair share of tearful nights, and this was particularly when I was in a relationship with Nick. It would last for days, and the conflict would be left unresolved as Nick was not someone who liked confrontation.

With Daniel, we do have our conflict from time to time but we get along better and have similar conflict-resolution approaches. As a result, we have conflict less frequently (compared to my relationship with Nick) and even if we do, it does not drag on for days. 


I can only thank God that things never worked out with Nick. Thankfully it was him who cheated - I was never able to bring myself to permanently end the relationship, so cheating and irresponsibility was the nail that sealed the coffin. I guess he wanted out as well but was not able to say so.

I know for sure that I will the one in tears frequently if we were to be together.. add some children into the scenario, I think it'd be one rocky household.

Marriage so far has really elevated the quality of life because it has been somewhat liberating and empowering. It has also made life more colourful as Daniel is one who knows how to enjoy life while I tend to be more serious. I just hope and pray that everyone who enters marriage will benefit from it too.. although I dread thinking of the reality that there are many unhappy marriages involving abuse or barely staying intact for the sake of the children.

Anyway, just penning my thoughts out as I've been worried about my two friends.. Hopefully things will get better.